Screens

My suggestion here is to get predictable!

I want every family to find a screen plan that works for them. Every family is different. We don’t all have the same privileges, circumstances, or accommodation needs, so my guidance isn’t about what you do, it’s about how you do it.

Unpredictable access to screens can increase dysregulation for children. So, look for places where you can offer some felt safety through structure and predictability.

Make a plan together. Decide how screens work in your home.

Maybe screens are only available after 4 pm. Maybe they’re a weekend thing. Maybe your child gets an hour a day, or a tablet is reserved for long car rides.

Whatever works for your family, make the plan clear and predictable.

Be transparent with your kids about what the plan is and why you’re balancing screen time. This isn’t about making screens “bad” or creating shame around them. It’s about helping our kids understand how we make choices that support their growing brains.

We’re supporting them in wiring up their brains for the rest of their lives. The more frequently they rely on easy, immediate dopamine hits, the harder it can become to push through disinterest, boredom, or frustration when something is more challenging.

We don’t need perfection. We need predictability, connection, and a plan that works for your actual family. And here's my reminder to keep monitoring because there's a lot available out there and we want to support our kids in having access to developmentally appropriate material.